If you wish to experience drama at its best, then adopt a few pre-teen girls for the afternoon. I recently had this experience with my daughter and a few her friends.
As soon as they experienced the automobile, I started to know such things as:
"Everybody flunked the test."
"He explained he liked me and it absolutely was the very best day of my whole entire life."
"OMG...that was so embarrassing mom. Please don't wave at the high school kids."
"I won't, ever understand math."
"You NEVER take me shopping."
"I don't have anything to wear."
The drama continued for the duration of the automobile ride.
It reminded me of the drama queen in many of us (especially women who struggle with emotional eating and body image issues).
The grown up drama queen says such things as:
"I have fallen off the wagon."
"I'll never, ever be thin."
"Everybody can eat what they need but me."
"I'm such a failure."
"OMG...did you see me trying to operate? That has been so humiliating."
Over time to be a female and experiencing womanhood, I came to appreciate that people all have a drama queen that lives within us. It only becomes a challenge when she's running the show. Dramacool
So, here really are a few techniques for living at peace with your inner drama diva:
1. Look at the drama, as opposed to from the drama
When you will find yourself being swept up into a dramatic moment, simply notice what's going on. Observe the way the emotions build, and then notice how you are tempted to act. Would you observe how drama adds a complexity to the situation?
2. State the Facts
Drama is judgment of the facts. Rather than saying, "I made a 74 on the math test," a drama queen says, "I'm such a failure. I won't, ever learn math." Or, as opposed to saying "I ate a bag of Oreos," she will say, "I have fallen off the wagon, and I'll never, ever be thin." Try stating just the reality of the situation, without judgment or negativity.
3. Prove your drama queen wrong
The inner dramatic loves to sensationalize things, but why don't you challenge her only a little with proof. As an example, when she claims that you will never, ever be thin, find evidence to prove her wrong. Find others who've done everything you are attempting to do or find reasoned explanations why you can be thin.
4. Give her the stage
Your drama queen just really wants to be heard and seen. Give the poor thing 5 or 10 minutes a day to accomplish her thing. I want to schedule in drama time when I can complain, exaggerate, cry, or just step out of my beautiful life for some moments to obtain completely trapped in drama, but then I return and close the curtain.
5. Take her to the movies
We all crave only a little excitement in our lives. The problem occurs whenever we use our lives as the stage for unhealthy drama to unfold. To entertain that part of you who craves a large production, try taking her to see a good show or read a good, trashy novel. You are able to walk away feeling satisfied without completing mucking up your life.
